Friday - Dad
Mar. 27th, 2005 02:39 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
zestfiveFriday was a good day. I drove in to take my Dad to his Dr. appointments. He definately seemed more himself than he was when I first talked to him on the phone. He was happy that I offered to go hang out with him and be with him when he went to his two appointments on Friday. BUT...he didn't ask, I had just offered. I still haven't figured out the "rules" as far as who does more of the intiating him as the Dad or me as the daughter.
His first appointment was with the hematoligist who did some blood work and scheduled an appointment to do a bonemarow biopsy. Apparently this hurts like hell. I'm not looking forward to it for him at all. He's leaking some kind of protein that he should be. I'm not sure what it's all about. As they really don't know why he's having kidney problems, they have wondered that perhaps the weird proteins have ruined his kidneys, and not the diabetes.
Than we had lunch, my Dad has always held his cards pretty tight to his chest, he certainly will share things but I have always felt that it was things he was okay with, not the scary or vunerable stuff....hmm..sounds like someone else I know (okay, I admit, it's me). There were a few things that I learned during lunch that were "new" information to me.
First off, there are aprox 5 people who have offered to be tested for the possiblity of being a live kidney donor to him. He is amazed by this, he talks about how he doesn't understand why they would love him enough to want to give such a gift to him. Does my Dad have low self-esteem? I always knew that he was sensitive about his learning disabilities and the shame surrounding that, but apparently it goes farther.
2ndly he spoke about how much he really wanted to have children. I've always figured he loved us and etc, but to really want to have children was different for me. I didn't necessarily want to have A but when he came along, he blew me away with how much I did love him.
The last thing that came from our time at lunch was him talking about his feminine side. I've in the last few years really identified my Dad as a feminist, only recently realizing that because he is who I imprinted on...I thought he was "normal". Of course he is...to me. It's only more recently that I realize how amazing he is as a human being.
Second appointment was with Cardiovascular Dr who identified an extra beat in his heart. He will be getting this shocked to eliminate it. They will have to go up through a vein (or is it an artery?) and shock him to get rid of it.
And we returned to home where we found his partner. She had come home a little early as she had a bad cold. She has also had a very hard time through the last few months with her mother passing of what she fears my Dad is suffering with. She admits that she's suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder stuff as a result of dealing with the Drs. This leads her to be very pesimisstic about his health, tests and the Drs. She's afraid he might die when they try to shock to get rid of the extra beat. She talks about the proteins being lukemia and etc. This in my opinion does not help my Dad's attitude, in fact was quite the downer when I brought him home and we were still very happy about our time together despite the medical stuff.
I was so glad that I was able to be there for him, I explained that I would be happy to help on any Fridays. He did schedule another appointment on a future Friday so perhaps we'll get to do it again.
His first appointment was with the hematoligist who did some blood work and scheduled an appointment to do a bonemarow biopsy. Apparently this hurts like hell. I'm not looking forward to it for him at all. He's leaking some kind of protein that he should be. I'm not sure what it's all about. As they really don't know why he's having kidney problems, they have wondered that perhaps the weird proteins have ruined his kidneys, and not the diabetes.
Than we had lunch, my Dad has always held his cards pretty tight to his chest, he certainly will share things but I have always felt that it was things he was okay with, not the scary or vunerable stuff....hmm..sounds like someone else I know (okay, I admit, it's me). There were a few things that I learned during lunch that were "new" information to me.
First off, there are aprox 5 people who have offered to be tested for the possiblity of being a live kidney donor to him. He is amazed by this, he talks about how he doesn't understand why they would love him enough to want to give such a gift to him. Does my Dad have low self-esteem? I always knew that he was sensitive about his learning disabilities and the shame surrounding that, but apparently it goes farther.
2ndly he spoke about how much he really wanted to have children. I've always figured he loved us and etc, but to really want to have children was different for me. I didn't necessarily want to have A but when he came along, he blew me away with how much I did love him.
The last thing that came from our time at lunch was him talking about his feminine side. I've in the last few years really identified my Dad as a feminist, only recently realizing that because he is who I imprinted on...I thought he was "normal". Of course he is...to me. It's only more recently that I realize how amazing he is as a human being.
Second appointment was with Cardiovascular Dr who identified an extra beat in his heart. He will be getting this shocked to eliminate it. They will have to go up through a vein (or is it an artery?) and shock him to get rid of it.
And we returned to home where we found his partner. She had come home a little early as she had a bad cold. She has also had a very hard time through the last few months with her mother passing of what she fears my Dad is suffering with. She admits that she's suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder stuff as a result of dealing with the Drs. This leads her to be very pesimisstic about his health, tests and the Drs. She's afraid he might die when they try to shock to get rid of the extra beat. She talks about the proteins being lukemia and etc. This in my opinion does not help my Dad's attitude, in fact was quite the downer when I brought him home and we were still very happy about our time together despite the medical stuff.
I was so glad that I was able to be there for him, I explained that I would be happy to help on any Fridays. He did schedule another appointment on a future Friday so perhaps we'll get to do it again.