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[zestfive]

I miss my Dad most of all when I need parenting advice. I don't know that I trust my mother's opinion. My sisters don't have children and therefore I don't know if they would help. The boy has it so easy and refuses to help around the house. When I try to push him to do it, he ends up having a tantrum and stalking off. This has to change.

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[recreated-me.livejournal.com]

I've dealt with that numerous times..and mine are 17 now
What I did was made a contract with them. They got to choose which chores they would do and in return they received an extra something (not money) at the end of the week. It works! Now mind you, they've had their grumpy moments - but they still do it.

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

Hmmmm.....perhaps I might try this, teh boy might do this. Thanks!

[pickleboot.livejournal.com]

hugs.

my parents aren't the greatest for things like that. i am so glad that we have keir's.

there are so many times that i wish my grandfather were still around- i wish we could get advice from him about the kids, the house, all sorts of things. i know that it in no way compares to what void your dad left, but i do understand the not wanting to go to your mom. i do get that.

hugs. i still haven't figured out how to get my two to help much. rei is great, but zane is a puzzle. if i figure something out i will let you know.

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

Thank, sometimes I just gotta vent, even if that's all that I end up doing about it. Heavy sigh...

Although, I must admit we've been having some great conversation since this blow out. I know teh boy loves me even if he tells me otherwise!

[lincolnzoe.livejournal.com]

hahahahaha whooooo! Sorry, but I teach teenagers and this is typical behavior.

I don't have kids of my own but my nephew lived with us for a little over two years and chores were a huge source of frustration. Basically my rule was "if you take it out/mess it up/etc.. you restore it to the way you found it". this happened before bedtime so all dishes, chips, etc were put away. Then every saturday morning was cleaning time and the three of us would hit the house hard, divide up the common areas and do our own personal spaces. He hated it but it was better than nagging on a daily basis and the rule was you couldn't do anything over the weekend until Saturday cleaning was complete.

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

yeah, that Saturday cleaning was part of my childhood too. From time to time I try to go back to that but it doesn't help that I struggle with housekeeping too!

[mplsindygirl.livejournal.com]

Call me, anytime. I've shared a few parenting stories along the way.

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

Thanks and we also have ex stories to share. You're great! My goal is to have dinner with you sometime before October is over!

[jen4luck.livejournal.com]

I'm with you in spirit. Go ahead Mama.

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

Thanks. We need to try again for dinner...what's your schedule?