teh boy ~ warning a bit of a rant

[zestfive]

What am I going to do? He's driving me crazy. I know that I was lazy growing up but I mostly did my chores when I had to.

He on the other hand, requires multiple reminders and is often blatently disrespectful. He will go on the computer or tv even after I've told him no. The tv room has the digital tv and video games in there, the reason why I don't want him in there is (despite repeated requests) he changes the settings on the tv system. I've asked him to clean up the living room for at least a week. For some reason, he thinks he's done it but there is still stuff everywhere. 

Yesterday I stayed home because I wasn't feeling well, headache and queasy stomach. The boy did finally get working on stuff which was nice. He picked up and vacuumed his room and picked up the living room the night before. Finally, and so dinner was nice. Let's hope he can maintain this.

Comments

[janboys.livejournal.com]

If I remember right your son is about the same age as mine (15). If so...it is such a freaking teenage boy thing!

Mine was a very sweet well mannered little boy - then puberty and I am not appreciating it too much at all!

I have been told they start acting better oh about age 25? YIKES!

Hugs!

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

25?!?!? NOooooo....I can't wait that long!

Thanks for the support!

[cluelessinchi.livejournal.com]

My son is 22 years old and he is just getting to be an good person whom I can relate to again. I think it had to do with him having his own place and needing to pay his own way in the world.

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

Are you suggesting that I kick him out? GRIN yeah, I know you're not...but perhaps kick him out to his Dad's for a little bit. I think this would help in two ways...for the boy to realize how good he has it and for the father to know what it's like to parent him for more than 2 days at a time.

[cluelessinchi.livejournal.com]

Oh heck no! *grins* It all depends on your boundaries. If you can handle it, do so. Communication is important. Or attempts at communication is important. If you think that having him spend more time at his Dad's is the answer perhaps it is. But, chances are that it will just seem like a wonderful bachelor pad and it might backfire on you. He might have less rules there... And this then would be like a vacation from you and your rules. That is how it was like with PJs dad.

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

Actually in the last 6 weeks, his father and I have really increased our communication. He (his Dad) even supports my position. He(his Dad) reports having the same problems at his house. Woo Hoo, I'm not the only one!

[cluelessinchi.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that is awesome! I think it is time that the boy spends the summer at Dad's. *grins*

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

That might be a really good idea. I wonder if his dad would go for it?

[cluelessinchi.livejournal.com]

It seems that his Dad wants to support your role as a parent. Perhaps he wants to "play Dad" now. This would be the chance to really prove that. I do not think you should give the boy's father a choice in this matter. *grins*
This would be his chance to really be the Father than perhaps he has not been in the past....*snickers*

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

yeah, when I'm really frusturated, I feel the same way. Although, considering the childhood that his father had, he's really been a very stable father. He consistently pays child support and has taken him most of the time when he should (even if it's less than I think it should be)

[cluelessinchi.livejournal.com]

I guess that is a good thing... It would be an adventure to really get to know each other. Like going to camp or something... Also if he wanted to support you as a Mother and he would do this for you. (can you tell I was raised catholic... *grins* I got the guilt aspect down!)

[zestfive.livejournal.com]

LOL, unfortunately he wasn't raised catholic and thankfully, neither was I!