Mother issues argh

[zestfive]

So the boy had a band "concert" last night (it actually was him playing one song). My father showed up with his partner as well as my sister, mother and the boy's father. P and I also attended the brief but really nice song he played in. Afterwards as we gathered around waiting for something to move on to, I was talking with my sister and mother about P and I's plans for vacation that included the boy. The destination was selected because the boy wants to go there (Colorado River and Grand Canyon). Well my judgemental sister says something like A being a third wheel to P and I. As I respond to that and try and let them know that A is really going to be the driver for the vacation my mother starts to count 1, 2, 3 (insinuating that if there are only three people, someone's got to be a third wheel). This pissed me off because they have no clue what's going on with us but they can be all judgemental about it. I ended up sending them both an email basically saying I don't like your comments and I really didn't appreciate you saying that in front of A because now they have introduced the idea to him.

Also my mother who has only spent 2 days(one last week to take him for a unneeded haircut and one weekend when A's father didn't want to take him because he was sick) with him since Christmas time is talking about him researching things he wants to do for his birthday, as if I don't do anything for him for his birthday, as if I never let him choose things to do. It really makes me feel like she thinks I'm incompetent. A is a really great young man and while I believe part of it is his own disposition but the other part has to do with his primary parent (yes that would be me!

Another thing, my stupid laptop won't access the network, argh!