Long ramblings about my weekend

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Okay Friday I get a call from the ex, he is all nice to me which is very different from the last voice mail he left for me. He wants to know the deal for the weekend. I ask if he's gotten my email that I am not going to be in charge of letting him know about school events, he can call the school, get a calender or check online. I also told him that I expect him to apologize for his behavior which he does. I'm still pissed but whatever, he then says that he read the divorce papers and I get the boy this entire weekend and that he wants him for two weekends in a row. I explain that as I understand, I get mothers day but not the entire weekend. This would be no change since I get him every Sunday by 9am anyways. I explain that I've got plans for Saturday night and would ask that if he wants to do that, at least take him Saturday since I had to work and then had plans. After a few minutes of discussion he decides that maybe we should just leave things as is. ARGH...

Anyways, I got up took the boy to the Ortho appointment. It's about 35-40 mins away, a little more in commute traffic. Then we had breakfast before I brought him back to school. I had to run because I was starting my new job as soon as I got there. This job is probably 45+ miles one way, Parking sucks at this new job, but I did find a great spot, get out of my car and realize that my wallet has fallen from my pocket. I knew it was at home. As I didn't have my wallet, I couldn't complete the I-9 and couldn't work that day. This really sucked because the plan was to pick up a friend of mine after work and hang out. As I didn't have any other plans and no other opportunity to complete the I-9 until the following Friday, I decided to drive home to pick it up and come back. The main interstate corridor that I drive on, was driven by me round trip, three times that day! I was back and did the paperwork and etc before I could start work at 2pm instead of my orginal 11am start time. Oh well, at least I didn't get the parking ticket that I feared because my car was in a spot for 1 1/2 hours where it shouldn't be.

In my hurry to leave work I neglected to check the email to learn that my friend R got tired of waiting and decided to call for a ride. Yeah, that sucked sitting at the curb for 45 minutes, afraid that if I left she wouldn't have her ride home. Eventually through the joys of cell phones/pagers we were able to figure the situation out, drove to her house and hung out, watched a movie "Kitchen Stories" gotta love those independent films, this was one from Sweden.

I got home at midnight and was gonna go to sleep when my neighbor yelled at me to join him. Normally his routine is ask me if I want a beer, I've lived here for 12+ years and he never remembers that I don't drink...except this time. Was it because he was so totally sloshed? For him to be drunk is not unusual but he was really wasted tonight, he was also hitting on me. Yuck! This guy is kinda odd, he seems to be lonely, conservative redneck but generally a okay guy. I feel sorry for him. After a couple of hours checking out his computer, I needed to be in my own bed by myself sleeping....as I'm leaving and stepping off his back deck, he's hollaring to me about the neighbors thinking that we're sleeping together...yeah, great! It's 2am and in his drunken stupor is yelling to the neighborhood about how I won't sleep with him.

Not enough sleep but make it to work by the hair of my neck. Home for laundry and etc. Plans determined for the play "Standing on the Table" which was WONDERFUL. I totally enjoyed it. If you happen to be in the Twin Cities, the last weekend is next weekend. Independent play written by local playwright about building community and the challenge that people face about following their passion or getting a job to pay the bills. Bedlam Theatre. I went with T who wanted to go because S/G was in the performance. We knew s/g from genderblur but never introduced ourselves, I'm shy like that but T is WAY shyer. T has gotten to know S/G over a list regarding trans stuff, and I was very happy for T that S/G was so welcoming to T about future trans stuff. T really needs to find some more support and folks in that world. Sometimes I feel T leans too much on me.

When saying goodnight to T, she hugged me but grabbed me at my hips, that was very uncomfortable, it's been too long since we've had that kind of contact, I'm so not there with her anymore. She had also offered to help me with my
laundry, dishes and etc in honor of mother's day, nice thought, but inappropriate, I'm not her mother. She doesn't know good boundries and she needs to learn them and be able to enforce them for others(like how her mom is inappropriate, imho). I felt bad for her because I knew that she was just going to continue to have a not very good night due to where she's at with all the trans stuff. When I got home at the end of the night, she had left a voicemail for me to call her...yeah well, I didn't get that message until after I woke up this am. 8:30 and I know that she's probably asleep.

After I left T's, I met up with A and K to dance for a couple of hours. I also saw T and L there. I didn't expect to see them there, love those ladies! After we left, had something to eat and drove home. I was in bed by 4am.

In bed by 4 and woken to the telephone by 8am by the stupid ex. Apparently boy has lost his house key and he was calling to make sure that I was home so he would be able to get in. Why he brough him home so early is beyond me, he wasn't due until 9am. So here I sit catching up on my email before I see if he's ready to go shopping and etc for my mother's day gift. I promised him to go shopping with me for his birthday present and cause I want to pick up a few things. This requires him to drive for a long time which he hates. Happy Mother's day to me!

Enough of this blogging...it's all rambling anyways.



If you're a mom, Happy Mother's Day to you!