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Apr. 2nd, 2005 09:29 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
zestfiveSo my dear friend R recently had coffee with my ex T. T then came to the library where I work to return a DVD that I checked out for her(with a trans story line). T and I picked up some dinner and when home to my house to eat, watch ER and then she eventually left. T did offer to "scratch my back...or a back rub" which essentially meant, she wanted to sleep with me. I didn't/don't think that is a good idea. I wasn't comfortable with that. I can be there as an emotional support for her, but I can't/won't sleep with her. And therefore, we didn't.
So then the next day R tells me that when her and T met. One of the things that R told her was, that she didn't like how I treated T. This didn't bother me at the time she told me this, now it does. And I'm trying to figure out why. R in the past has enjoyed T but then backed off from developing more of a friendship with her. I figure that is their business what kind if any friendship they have. T who is even more introverted, shy and isolates herself reports that she can really identify with R. So part of me is thinking that R shouldn't be so protective of T because she's really never let herself get close to her. And how am I treating her so bad? So, now that I've realized this bugs me, I've sent R an email requesting we have a chance to talk about this. We'll see how this goes.
Didn't get as much done yesterday as I hoped...perhaps I can catch up on it tonight.
So then the next day R tells me that when her and T met. One of the things that R told her was, that she didn't like how I treated T. This didn't bother me at the time she told me this, now it does. And I'm trying to figure out why. R in the past has enjoyed T but then backed off from developing more of a friendship with her. I figure that is their business what kind if any friendship they have. T who is even more introverted, shy and isolates herself reports that she can really identify with R. So part of me is thinking that R shouldn't be so protective of T because she's really never let herself get close to her. And how am I treating her so bad? So, now that I've realized this bugs me, I've sent R an email requesting we have a chance to talk about this. We'll see how this goes.
Didn't get as much done yesterday as I hoped...perhaps I can catch up on it tonight.