This also raises the question, do I use my excuse of wanting to "protect" or provide privacy for AF as a huge closet?
I have wondered this about myself, too. But, it really is only the crap my kids will get from other people that concerns me. I wish I could change the opinions of the masses, but I can't and I don't want my kids to suffer because of the part of me that is in conflict with all of those opinions. If my kids had an activist mentality/personality, it might be different, but they don't--at all.
Many of my kids' best friends probably wouldn't want anything to do with them/me/our house if they knew I was gay. Should I just put it all out there and say, "Tough luck. They were rotten people anyway. Go find some more tolerant friends."?
It could be argued (and has *many* times) that I am encouraging a homophobic attitude in my children by not requiring them to deal with any aspect or consequence of my sexual orientation. I struggle with this daily.
Congratulations! Your kid *is* amazing. Mine--not so much.
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Thanks for posting this.
Date: 2005-01-14 02:54 pm (UTC)I have wondered this about myself, too. But, it really is only the crap my kids will get from other people that concerns me. I wish I could change the opinions of the masses, but I can't and I don't want my kids to suffer because of the part of me that is in conflict with all of those opinions. If my kids had an activist mentality/personality, it might be different, but they don't--at all.
Many of my kids' best friends probably wouldn't want anything to do with them/me/our house if they knew I was gay. Should I just put it all out there and say, "Tough luck. They were rotten people anyway. Go find some more tolerant friends."?
It could be argued (and has *many* times) that I am encouraging a homophobic attitude in my children by not requiring them to deal with any aspect or consequence of my sexual orientation. I struggle with this daily.
Congratulations! Your kid *is* amazing. Mine--not so much.