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Jan. 17th, 2007 09:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
zestfiveback to work, still sick and I've not gotten good sleep the last 3 nights. I sure hope that it doesn't make sick worse, but I'm sure it will.
The boy has been a pain in the butt. He didn't tell me he wasn't going to be home last Thursday after school because they had practice for his performance. I told him he was going to get a consequence and gave him the chance to come up with one for himself. He didn't and he also disputed the issue of having a consequence. First his excuse was that he *had* told me which wasn't true (he told me about Wednesday not Thursday) then he said he *forgot* but I told him that doesn't excuse him from consequences. As I'm so tired of dealing with consequences with him, I didn't know what to do. If you remember the debacle of him cleaning his room this weekend, he thought that was part of his consequences (ahh...no, normal responsiblities kiddo!) I also took his computer and decided that on Monday he was grounded (after he asked to go to his friend's house). He took it upon himself to leave to his friend's house even though I told him he was grounded. I told him that if he wasn't going to follow my rules, he could live somewhere else. (this was on the phone talking to him while he was at his friend's house). He said he needed time to think and etc. when he said he wasn't going to come home, I told him that I was going to pick him up. P had a dr appt which I was taking her to and he proved himself untrustworthy and was going to come with us. I went and picked him up and took him with. I don't think he liked it too much but what can you do? Surprisingly he wasn't *that* bad. We ended up doing a bunch of errands and got home very late because the car broke down.
The car broke down (I don't know why) and so we sat at the side of the road in 10 degree weather. Fortunately we were about 20 miles from home, my lovely sis picked us up and we sat waiting for the tow truck in her warm car. She was happy to do it as P has rescued her before when her car was towed. We haven't heard about the car yet (it was towed to a garage where I've purchased many of my cars that I've owned for the last few years, I trust them and they were just a few miles the other way).
Did I tell you I was back to work? It's workshop days and so I need to pay attention and not fall asleep, yesterday not too bad but today is hard.
The boy has been a pain in the butt. He didn't tell me he wasn't going to be home last Thursday after school because they had practice for his performance. I told him he was going to get a consequence and gave him the chance to come up with one for himself. He didn't and he also disputed the issue of having a consequence. First his excuse was that he *had* told me which wasn't true (he told me about Wednesday not Thursday) then he said he *forgot* but I told him that doesn't excuse him from consequences. As I'm so tired of dealing with consequences with him, I didn't know what to do. If you remember the debacle of him cleaning his room this weekend, he thought that was part of his consequences (ahh...no, normal responsiblities kiddo!) I also took his computer and decided that on Monday he was grounded (after he asked to go to his friend's house). He took it upon himself to leave to his friend's house even though I told him he was grounded. I told him that if he wasn't going to follow my rules, he could live somewhere else. (this was on the phone talking to him while he was at his friend's house). He said he needed time to think and etc. when he said he wasn't going to come home, I told him that I was going to pick him up. P had a dr appt which I was taking her to and he proved himself untrustworthy and was going to come with us. I went and picked him up and took him with. I don't think he liked it too much but what can you do? Surprisingly he wasn't *that* bad. We ended up doing a bunch of errands and got home very late because the car broke down.
The car broke down (I don't know why) and so we sat at the side of the road in 10 degree weather. Fortunately we were about 20 miles from home, my lovely sis picked us up and we sat waiting for the tow truck in her warm car. She was happy to do it as P has rescued her before when her car was towed. We haven't heard about the car yet (it was towed to a garage where I've purchased many of my cars that I've owned for the last few years, I trust them and they were just a few miles the other way).
Did I tell you I was back to work? It's workshop days and so I need to pay attention and not fall asleep, yesterday not too bad but today is hard.
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Date: 2007-01-17 04:20 pm (UTC)I don't have any helpful suggestions about how to handle your young teen, though I have one myself. I have heard however that it is not a good idea to threaten or suggest outcomes that you would not follow through on, so unless you really intend to have him live somewhere else, that might be one you want to hold back from saying. Especially if he decides with his limited teen logic to move out and in with a friend or worse, run off.
Things have got to get better, right, cause they can't get much worse!
Maybe you need to see a doctor, too. You've been sick awhile, it seems.
Good luck!
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Date: 2007-01-17 06:24 pm (UTC)His father lives 7 miles west and the boy called him up to talk about moving there. I doubt his father could take care of him but his father did phone and the first thing he mentioned if this would happen was child support! (Unfortunately, his father refused to even consider keeping him in the same school where he participates in an arts magnet program) Perhaps both the boy and I need to take a little time out, gather are smarts and talk a little more.
Do you want to come and take over my life? I'm tired of being responsible, I want someone to take care of me! GRIN....just kidding..mostly GRIN