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[Error: unknown template qotd]Grr...LJ seems to have trouble with it's writer's block. First it didn't post the question and then I responded and added this pic but the words were missing.



Ok, so my answer is that I'm not very good at receiving compliments but it's something I'm working on and I know that I'm getting better at it. I'm taking them in and hearing them instead of just brushing them off which is what I'd do in the past. It gives me a really nice and warm feeling especially that I can take them in. My most recent compliment that I was given was from [livejournal.com profile] cariadwen who said "You are such a good woman, I'm glad to have you on my friends list."

The reason I posted this pic was to speak about the most recent compliment I gave someone. I went to a gallery opening last night for a woman who I have a great deal of respect for. I told her so and bought the painting above for myself. It's the 2nd original painting I own.
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Last night...I was watching the movie Departures. I have it waiting for me at the public libray but I discovered it on youtube broken up in pieces. I want to re-watch it in it's full form.



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What do you like to collect?  (I don't know why the question doesn't copy into the post like it once did)

Books and more books! And music...
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Have you ever had a secret admirer? What happened?

not to my knowledge
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Who is the most important man in your life?


currently? my son
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At one point in my life I really didn't care and then after my Dad was killed, I realized that having some where to go  is really for the survivors. The more I read about green burial, the more I want to do it. I don't think Minnesota allows for that yet.

I do remember my maternal grandmother's private scattering of the ashes. It was beautiful, out in the back woods by the creek my mom's friend sang "Old Rugged Cross" acapella while we litterally scattered her ashes. Beautiful ending to her life.
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[Error: unknown template qotd]I don't necessarily keep it a secret from anyone but I have removed people that I've known in real life. It was explained to me that this was their way of keeping in touch with me. I felt since it was one-sided, it was more of them being voyeuristic than "staying in touch with a friend".  This "friend" has gone on to unfriend me on FB too. Oh well, not that much of a friend....IMHO.

Apparently, I have a different definition of "friend". Thankfully, I've got some really dear friends who share my definition. Sadly, my partner has gotten caught in the crossfire of this conflict and I don't think she shares my same definition and is hurt by this change. I feel bad for her but I have better boundaries than to try and fix a conflict between her and others. It would be up to her to try to fix it, in her own way or not.




And I'm only a little bitter about it.
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[Error: unknown template qotd]recognize that we can always find something to learn from in any situation and often one's feelings can push you to a better situation. 




It also can help to know that your best revenge will be your success!
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Five years would make me 47. I don't even know where I'll be. I've worked really hard to get where I am with my education and job and now I've finally made it. I think I need to take some time and figure this out. I'm the type of person that needs to have something to work for and for the life of me, I don't know what that is anymore. They might not be career or educational goals but if not that...what?  Let me know if you have any good ideas. The goals I have left aren't as fun for me, GRIN. Health, house cleaning and etc. This may mean that I need to get in touch with my own personal wants and that's a little hard for me to do...
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I think YEARS ago, I had a single bite of a ostrich burger(at a county fair), it was meh...  I'm not that into meat or really weird food. It was only after I browsed the list that others ate that caused me to remember.
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Both of my sisters were really attached to their blankets, I had one due to sister pressure! I wasn't really attached to things. I had them don't get me wrong but not so attached to them.

Makes me feel like doing a lot of purging of my stuff. I'm rather nostalgic but if I can find my good camera, I think I'm going to start taking pictures of things and tossing them. I want to get my living room finally cleaned up and be able to buy a couch.
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relaxing, restful, peaceful, calm, hideaway, private, hide from the world. I'm also working on making it more of what I want and less of what I can afford. I'm finally past the point where I have to "make do". It's really hard to go beyond that and figure out what I actually like.

How do I interpret those feelings to make my home. Outdoors, light, clean lines but enough personality. I want to have pictures of those I love out more than the snapshots propped up against some other clutter. I want to have beautiful jewel tones and color but classic looks.

I know that this is more than ten words, I break rules! :-P
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I think it would be so cool to have one of these boxy old Mercedes and paint it taxi cab yellow with a taxi cab stripe around it OR I want Harold's hearse Jag!



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Really? Does anyone think standardized tests are good? There are infinitely so many different amazing gifts that people have that cannot be measured by tests...but what else can we do? not test them? Hmm.....there's an idea. Sadly I think because of the need to manage large numbers of people in public schools, we end up not being able to teach kids by their natural interests and allow them to discover the amazing things in the world. I think curiosity is often a natural trait that gets "educated" out of people. I'm glad I still have my curiosity!

I know that I'm looking at the world through my rose-colored glasses but I like them that way!
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I don't think I've ever had a serious conflict with anyone on LJ. I could be wrong about that.... I respect everyone's right to their position even if I disagree with them, it's not like I can even do anything about it anyway...right? No one died and made me god!
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I'm the middle of three girls. We had times where we fought like cats and dogs. Since I've grown up, I have great love and respect for them. They are pretty amazing human beings and I'm very lucky to have them as sisters.

I also grew up with a feminist father and a family belief in democracy. We had family meetings and everyone got an equal vote. When my mom went back to work there was a chore list developed and we rotated who got to sign up first (for the choice chores). Whenever my Dad worked on our cars, we had to be there to watch and learn and sometimes help. He didn't want us to be helpless and not know anything about cars.

All of that being said, I really wish I had a brother or two. The reason is that since my Dad's death, I don't have much men energy in my life any more and I miss it. I come from a small family, neither sister are married or have kids. I have a lot of really amazing strong beautiful intelligent women in my life(benefits to being a lesbian) but very few men. I also want them to be good men, it seems there's very few of them around. It also seems that men and women being friends is a little suspect which makes me sad. I think my Dad probably spoiled me as far as what I think a good man is.

I'd be up for adopting a brother....Do you think that could happen? Let me know if you know any available.
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Define "long car ride"! I feel like I take long car rides whenever I go to work. It's about 45 minutes (32 miles)one way. Some days I commute with my son and occasionally we have great conversations. He rides with me 2 days a week right now. If he's not with me, I listen to books on my ipod or various podcasts.  My favorite podcasts are This American Life, Dick Gordon - The Story or Dan Savage. I'm about to read the third book in the Steig Larsson series but I have to finish the last 10 minutes of a Radio Lab podcast.
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I'd want to take a ride with my Dad and try to suck up all of his last bits of wisdom before the trip ends. His absence is the biggest hole in my ongoing life.
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I'm going to guess that I was about 3 years old. I was with my Mom and younger sister at a La Leche League meeting at least that's what my mother says. If you were a nursing mother, you could keep your nursing child with you. My older sister was not with us (school?) so I was all alone and had to go to another room with other kids. I hated it. I didn't like being all alone.
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Well, as my usual answer would be "it depends". I think that the age of the individuals is important because someone who is 18 and just starting out in their life, finding their first "real" job and asserting their independence with a 12 year age gap (30 year old partner) is very different than a 40 year old with someone who is 52 and are both in a similar stage in their life.

That being said, in the spirit of transparency, I will admit that my partner and I have an 11 year age gap. I'm probably a very mature 41 year old and my partner is a very young at heart 52 year old.

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